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Ekhm… Sipping coffee and reflecting on men's problems, I remembered the article I came up with some time ago, and which side I am cooperating with.
https://swiadomosc-zwiazkow.pl/95-procent-mezczyzn-bedzie-odrzutanych-przez-kobiety-za-wyglad/
This is the article.
In analyzing all the points, I will first start with what I disagree with.
Well, I read a lot of comments there, and let me quote some and refer to them. Finally, I will write what I think about the theses in the article in general.
RedPillerPL
Author: **
“ Why men don't support each other - I wrote, because they are usually a competition for each other, and the competition is strict and often unfair (e.g. bad boys against sons raised polite, not to give up and turn the other cheek, or idealize girls and more) . All these guys who are taught to be gentle, empathetic, to be a nice person and not looking for conflict - they can become incels, because they are only adapted to life with equally cool people. But there aren't many of them. And after the wave of harm they have suffered, they only see the solution to becoming aggressive, which then builds society's thinking that they are definitely future murderers. They don't see the causes, they see the effect. AND THIS IS NO KNOWLEDGE.” _
And this is a fundamental mistake, an extremely serious and fundamental mistake that all those who make bad boy mantras do not understand and that one should not be a good boy. YOU SHOULD FUCK !!!
IF you are not genetically a bad boy, IF you do not have a strong jaw and you do not have bad boy genetics, you will be a TOTAL BETTER better than being a good boy than a bad boy.
I am not talking about being a soft dummy, some masculine qualities for women are useful, initiative, willingness to ensure a woman's safety; while bad boying can almost always be afforded by ADMITTINGERS. An average looking guy SHOULD NOT play any bad boy. Listen up. How many I have seen REGULAR cool guys who finally found a pretty girlfriend - and these were ordinary, nice guys, sometimes IT specialists with a passion for computers.
And attention - you will tell me now that his woman is really hot at the sight of a bad boy, and she treats him as a beta provider. IT IS A LITTLE. Just a little and only a little. For the first thing; women do not have as high libido as we do, women have much lower sex drive, as a result of which there are really many women for whom sex is not that important AND WHO are pretty. I had such a girl, she was a virgin, she had a rather average drive, she was such a woman, she was not a typical hot banging woman. When I took her closer to me, I could see that she was warming up and only DURING sexual intercourse with me she started to get very excited. But BEFORE the act, she was like that“ well, maybe…” . And it wasn't because I didn't turn her on in appearance, maybe a bad boy would have excited her more, but the main reason wasn't her looks, the main reason was that SO HAS SO MANY WOMEN !!!
I have listed the research here.
Perhaps⅔ of all women feel excited JUST DURING SEX. By contrast, before sex, on average, these women have sex more for intimacy. What makes men different is that we want sex first, that we're hot and aroused. Women, in turn, will feel warm and excited ALREADY DURING SEX! That's why it's so hard to get them to him sometimes, because they only get aroused during sex.
And yes, okay, with bad boys they would probably be more excited but STILL doesn't change the main point - these women,⅔ women, he has a LOT, MUCH, AND ONCE FUCKING MUCH LOWER SEXUAL DRIVE than men. And that's what every guy talking about Bad Boys should PRINT!
Because this is the absolute basis of the differences between a woman and a man. The main difference between men and women is the COCK and a LOT of DIFFERENCE in sex drive. Why do men compete, fight wars? Why? Why are we creating inventions and not women? Not because women are less intelligent. I give you the reason here and now:
BECAUSE WE HAVE A DICK. So much and only that. It's the sex drive, the DUCK, as our energy - it's used either for sex, or for inventions, exploration, etc. In short: YOU WANT US.
If you don't believe it, take your cat, neutered him and tell me if he still wants to compete, go to other cats, etc. So what? Well, I don't want to. Exactly.
Therefore, it is better for a guy to be nice and normal, partner with a woman and have a relationship with her than to pretend to be a bad boy. Yes, usually a guy like this will have less sex after a while, but he'll still have a woman next to him, still having sex from time to time - better than being a female-hating incel.
It is much healthier for him, I assure you.
The best example is myself. I had sex with my first girlfriend after… 2 years of relationship. YES. Two years. I didn't care so much about sex, I believed more in the connection of souls. And you know what? After these two years when sex finally came about, the sex was AWESOME. We had sex all night long, and after a few beers we had sex all night long. Then we kind of went to sleep, and yet around 4 am we woke up a little and went back to caressing. ALL NIGHT. According to The Bad Boy theory HAS NO LAW OF BEING, it is impossible.
According to these theories, if you didn't fuck a girl in the 3rd meeting, you're incel, shit and she's fucking you. So what? If I had listened to this DEBILIOUS advice, I would never have had everything I experienced with her.
I repeat: WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT FROM men, EXTREMELY DIFFERENT, they have MUCH LOWER LIBIDO, sex is usually for them a MEANS of achieving intimacy with a man, not an end in itself to discharge their excitement.
RedPillerPL
Author **
“ And when you talk about depression, you also talk about people's depression in general, too little is studied of male depression to go deeper into sex itself. If society were interested in men, they would not allow so many suicides for centuries, and these numbers have always been enormous.” _
Well, but here the author forgets one thing. This world evolved from the TERRIBLE torments of our ancestors. Men once went hunting, fell into traps, were eaten alive by wild animals, there were no ZUS, US, hospitals, ambulances - men LIVE FAST, they died quickly. Among other things, this is why the majority of men who ever walked on this Earth did NOT MULTIPLE. Therefore, men should:
Get to know this knowledge about your ancestors Stop dreaming up images of romantic comedies.
Romantic comedies and the media brainwash us that having a beautiful partner, having sex together, moments, this is OBVIOUS AND DUTY. If you don't have it, then something is wrong with you. Well, that's just a tragic mistake - and this is it, I keep repeating: THIS IS what causes guys to commit suicide. In short, they impose on themselves too much pressure.
What is trivial to achieve for women, ie relationship, sex, moments - is MUCH HEAVY to achieve for men. It has always been like this. So when you understand it - you will take the pressure off that you have to do something. The guy NEEDS NOTHING.
Understand. It must be a woman. It is the woman who has to give birth to children, the woman has to have a husband, a man, children - of course not so much that something will happen, but more so because she is a little deficient without it. A woman without a family, children, aged 35+, but this is a bit of a sad sight, I have nothing personal with such ladies, but it is a bit weak. But the guy NEEDS NOTHING.
The man's ancestors died VERY EARLY, wars, fights, ambushes, hunting for a mammoth - the early death of a man in risky escapades was an OBVIOUS, EVERYDAY!
That is why a man is always something of a guerrilla in relation to women. Women have everything on their side; biology, social protection, sexuality, ease of getting intercourse.
A man is ALWAYS some kind of a guerrilla in all of this, and therefore an individual who tries to conquer, hit this here, there, this, this to that, vulnerable to rejection, etc.
Do you know when a man will feel good about it? When he understands that THIS IS NATURE and THERE IS NOTHING WRONG! When the pressure to have a beautiful partner comes off him, because“ a friend has” to have a wonderful life with a beautiful woman by your side. NEVER, I repeat: HAS NEVER HAPPENED. Like the rest of the world, intercourse with a woman has always been RISKY for a man in the long run. The risk of child support or getting fucked up, or getting killed by another guy of hers, the risk of being somehow sexually humiliated by a woman. A man-woman relationship has ALWAYS been a risk. Among spiders, the female spider EATS her partner after mating!
We can say allegorically that the female of the human“ eats” male after marriage, with him consumption is slower, in line with our life expectancy.
These are the basic matters that I wanted to explain here, because understanding them, deeply understanding them, makes a man approach things more stoically, with stoic calmness, relieve himself of pressure and better understand this world, women, all the mechanisms that govern it all.
As for the rest of the things; I believe that 95% will not be rejected, 80% will be rejected UNLESS they adopt a different strategy. A strategy of getting to know a woman, sometimes even camaraderie, a strategy of slowly awakening in a woman to think about herself as someone more. But it is time. It's not easy here. It's not like a bad boy that you snap a finger and she is yours. There is time here, everything is built differently, but it CAN.
CAN BE.
My friend from computer science, in my life I would never have thought that such a slim, but very ordinary guy, really - he did not have a haircut up, nor a super tall (from 178) - and I see what girl he got into a relationship with until I gasped - really beautiful blonde, tall, angel. And I guess he was definitely not a bad boy for her. Maybe he just woke her up by being nice, by being a curious man, with aspirations. Yes, she probably saw good material for a beta provider in it - but what is it to say, since almost every guy is a beta provider for a woman? Such a life, such a reality, the key is to understand it, get into a relationship, give the girl a good life and see it as masculine, because in a way it is classically normal and masculine.